Meet the people who are best at meeting goals

Meet the people who are best at meeting goals I tell my husband  tidbits about the kids because part of my strategy to get  him to relocate to Swarthmore is to keep him feeling close to us. I tell him my younger son is winning more on his video game than ever before because the Internet we get from living above Dunkin Donuts is so much faster than on the farm. Is he connected to us? I dont know. Farmers are so connected to their work that its hard to divide  their life and their job. But then I have coached so many people like that. Its not  healthy to conflate  yourself and your job. But Im like that too; I could never be me and not write.  The essence of being me is words. And maybe the essence of being my husband is nature. You know Ive lost my mind when I am talking about the essence of people because thats language people use when they are getting ready to do nothing. Spiritual philosophizing  is not the language of a high achiever. Before he goes to bed, I call him say Hi. To tell him I love him. This  is not a typical call for me, because I am not people oriented. But I am goal oriented, and I want my kids to live in a stable family. So I make the call to meet a goal. Me:  Did you see that Merriam-Websters  word of the year is surreal? Him: Is that a new word? Me: A new use. As in my life is surreal. You know? To mean bizarre. Then we hang up.  We are not big phone people. He didnt really even grow up with a phone. Even when I was dating him, and I called his house, there was a party line, so people not in his house might answer. I call him every other day with a fact. Because he is an ISTP. He thinks my reliance on my intuition is hilarious. I dont tell him how small his world is when he is only interested in concrete reality. I just try my best to stay in it while Im with him. One of the problems of living in reality is its very difficult to set goals, because goals are about something thats not yet happening. And if its worth doing, its a little unrealistic. So for most of my husbands life, he didnt really have a goal. He fed pigs, raked hay, cut corn Until I came along. The more I talk with people about meeting their goals, the more  I understand why ENTJs set big goals and meet them    and no one else really does. Im not kidding. I learned it the hard way. I made the title of my  ENTJ course Accomplish Whatever You Want and then Do it Again.  Because ENTJs are obsessed with meeting their goals. But the course doesnt sell to ENTJs because they  dont need help meeting their goals. Instead, the course sells to people who are not ENTJs but want to be more like ENTJs. I can understand that. ENTJs have all the money and all the power. Well, except me, but Im a damaged ENTJ, thank goodness for you, because  thats what makes this blog interesting. Most ENTJs will not bother to explain how ENTJs meet all their goals. But I will: An ENTJ always has a big goal.  For every action, because nothing is worth doing if it doesnt meet an important goal. Also,  the ENTJ rarely  dumps a  goal until its met. Intellectual tenacity comes naturally to an ENTJ. An ENTJ constantly adjusts  the goal. I knew moving the kids to Swarthmore  was  essential to meeting their goals. But I wasnt  sure if my husband  should come to Swarthmore. Now  I am pretty sure he should move. Hes isolated on the farm. The nearest house is a mile away. And he scaled back his farm work to the point where he calls himself semi-retired. And he  has lots of things he wants to pursue  that are best done in a city. Ive had people tell me I can convince anyone to do anything, but actually thats because I spend a lot of time figuring  out the other persons goals and how they can best meet them. An ENTJ is constantly learning about how to reach their goal. But unlike  the researchers who are all learning and no action, an ENTJ takes action all the time. Melissa says I run  my kids like they are a company. And I can see why thats true, because each company Ive founded was in a field I knew nothing about, so I read about it obsessively for years and years. Thats what Ive done with the cello world. I spend five hours a week doing research about how people build music careers, where the good  cello teachers are, whats the best way to practice. Im always thinking about the next step. An ENTJ does not like regular  fun.  ENTJ fun  is meeting a goal, which means making  a little progress each day, reviewing the remaining milestones. And then  lingering on the big-picture in the way  I imagine others sip a tall glass of beer during happy hour. I hope  my husband reads this post.  He doesnt read posts  that look boring at first blush, so  I put a picture of him at the top of this one just in case. This is my love letter to him. My goals are my life. And everything I do is to meet a goal. Being part of my goals is my highest form of love. And I want to stay with him. And I want to continue to meet goals with him. I love him because he brings out my most heartfelt goal-meeting self.